Ideas to honor those passed away?
My fiance’s dad passed away when he was only 8. We will be getting married at the age of 20. So, everyone has already grieved and is used to him not being there. However, I would like to do something special to honor his dad on our wedding day. I want it to be in the form of a gift from me to my fiance. I saw someone on a tv show give personalized cuff links with the groom’s brothers’ names; the brothers passed away while in the army. I don’t necessarily want to give cufflinks (I do like the idea, though) b/c there is only one person to honor, not two people. Any suggestions???
We are going to see each other before the ceremony. So, I want to give it to him then. I want it to be something he can have on him somehow.
Open to your answer. Thanks!
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July 29th, 2009 at 7:31 am
how about a frame picture of the two together?
July 30th, 2009 at 12:31 pm
You could just light a candle in his honor during the ceremony! Good-Luck!!
July 31st, 2009 at 9:36 am
Lighting candles is really pretty at the wedding! A gift could be those candles! So sorry to hear that good luck on the wedding!
July 31st, 2009 at 12:35 pm
How about an ID bracelet with his name engraved on the top, then - if they can do it - engrave something on the underside about his dad - his name, or something meaningful.
However, I worry about doing something like this for the wedding day, don’t think it’s really appropriate.
Usually, the best place to mention deceased loved ones is when the two of you do your talk at the reception.
August 3rd, 2009 at 3:34 pm
My mom had passed away and my husband gave me a pic of her in a really nice frame with the flower that all the “moms” and aunts were wearing at the wedding and he told me that I should place it by the guest signe in book so everyone would see how special she was and still is!
August 3rd, 2009 at 7:04 pm
How about you light a candle in memory of your late father in law as part of the ceremony?
August 4th, 2009 at 10:13 am
if it’s in your budget a slide show during the wedding reception would be beautiful. i have seen that done on one of those wedding shows and everyone enjoyed it. the picture frame thing is a good idea too. plus i think your fiancee would be honored at the fact that you remembered him. it’s very thoughtful.
August 5th, 2009 at 1:48 am
I personally wouldn’t do this because it brings up something that shouldn’t be focused upon on your wedding day.
My sister had a tribute to those in our family that passed away during her wedding and it was so cheeesy and it just made those that are still sensitive about it in the family feel horrible.
August 7th, 2009 at 3:17 am
put a framed, locket size picture of him on the grooms boutanir (sp..is way off, sorry!)
August 9th, 2009 at 7:48 pm
I WAS AT A WEDDING THAT JUST BEFORE THE BEST MAN MADE HIS TOAST THEY SHOWED SLIDES OF THE GROOMS GRANDMAS THAT HAD PASSED AND THE BRIDES GRANDFATHER, IT WAS REALLY TOUCHING
August 12th, 2009 at 11:39 pm
Maybe in the paper presenting how the ceremony will take place, you can make a mention of the “respects to the deceased” to honor them.
August 15th, 2009 at 7:28 pm
I’m not sure if you’re going to have a unity candle at your ceremony, but if you are, go to the link below and check out their memorial candles. My mom passed away when I was 13, and my fiance just recently lost his grandma, so we had them engrave both of their names on the candle to symbolize our families coming together, even those who are only there in spirit. It’s something I know we will treasure forever, long after the wedding. This would be a great idea if your fiance isn’t a cuff link and jewelry kind of guy (like mine!)
While we’re lighting the candle, we’re going to have my cousin sing “The Prayer” by Andrea Bocelli and Celine Dion; if all else fails, you can always pick a song for you and your fiance to dance to, or to share some kind of personal moment together, before, during or after the ceremony.
Hope that helps!
August 16th, 2009 at 9:51 pm
I have 2 ideas…one is a gift , one is a thoughtful gesture. For the gift , I would give him one of those guardian angel pins..let him wear it inside his jacket pocket , right over his heart , representing his dad. As for an added sweet bonus , I would reserve an extra seat at the reception and place a rose on the chair in honor of his father. If you don’t have the room for the extra seat , you can simply place a rose on the pew at the church , next to the groomsmen. Good Luck!
August 19th, 2009 at 3:28 am
What about the idea of a monogrammed hankerchief that your fiance could wear in his lapel of the tux?
August 20th, 2009 at 8:51 am
My brother and my grandma passed away. So at my wedding I had a vase of blue carnations (My brother was a Dallas Cowboy fan) and white roses ( My grandma’s favorite flower) on a pedestal with pictures. We also had the officiant say a prayer to remember them.